Terry Cato

About Terry Cato

Terry Cato is a Talk Show Host, Author and relationship blogger. She is the Founder of Relationships 411, a blog community dedicated to healthy relationships and marriages. She is the Host of Real Talk w/Terry a Bay Area talk show focusing on relationship and lifestyle topics. Her memoir, “No Longer a Bridesmaid!” chronicles the 7 years she was single, celibate and believing God for a husband. Feel Free to Follow Terry on Twitter and visit her website for more information about the Author.

I Have Doubt

I Have Doubt

While watching the morning news today, a local Priest made a statement about the Catholic Church and its handling of Priests who had been accused of inappropriate behavior with minors, he said, “lose faith in the Church but never lose faith in Jesus.” In the movie Doubt, the head Nun made a statement at the […]

What If We Got What We Deserved?

What If We Got What We Deserved?

Quite often when someone wrongs or offends us, we tend to look the other way and think, “they will get what’s coming to them … and if I’m lucky I can witness”. I recently heard of a great misfortune that happened to someone who had wronged me. My initial thought was “well he got what […]

Forgive, As the Lord Forgave You

Forgive, As the Lord Forgave You

For me, forgiving those who have trespassed against me can be hard; especially, if the treatment is unprovoked or unwarranted. When faced with difficult moments in life that require I forgive someone for treating me wrong, I’m always reminded of Colossians 3:13, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a […]

When God Answers, “Not Now”

When God Answers, “Not Now”

One of the hardest places to be as a Christian is in a holding pattern; or in between seasons. For me personally, I’ve found this season hard because when I was younger in my faith, I always had a hard time discerning the voice of God during these times. I learned from experience, when in […]

What Will Your Legacy Be?

What Will Your Legacy Be?

Two weeks ago, I received a devastating text message that one of my former Pastors and spiritual leaders had suddenly and unexpectantly passed away at the vibrant age of 50. As I continue to process this reality, I’ve found myself over the past couple of weeks reminiscing about my former Pastor, Bishop Alexis A. Thomas and […]

A Little Kindness Goes a Long Way

A Little Kindness Goes a Long Way

I recently saw a news report about a teenager in Florida who started a club at school called, “We Dine Together”. The purpose of this club is to enure that no student eats alone during lunch time. This story moved me to tears. My heart went out to the young man who said he knew […]

Comfort In Times of Tragedy

Comfort In Times of Tragedy

Sometimes in life, things happen that don’t make sense. One such event is the recent tragedy in Las Vegas. Based on initial reports, no one, not even the perpetrator’s family can fathom why he would lock himself in a luxury hotel room and open fire on a group of unsuspecting concert goers. This latest tragedy […]

A New Body

A New Body

Earlier this week my grandfather passed away. His death was not a complete shock, since his health had been declining for the past few months. These last couple of days have been a whirlwind for me and I don’t know if I’ve fully processed his demise. I am comforted in knowing that as the word […]

Checked at the Door

Checked at the Door

I was raised in the church. My family has a long history of church affiliation, membership, and leadership. My great-grandfather was one of the founders and associate Pastors of my childhood/family church.  The building [a remodeled version] which still stands today, is across the street from my grandmother’s house. I remember my great-grandmother sharing with […]

A Child’s Prayer

A Child’s Prayer

After my daughter’s dance class a few nights ago, she hurried out of class and excitedly told me that she had been promoted to pointe in her ballet class.  In the world of ballet, a promotion to pointe level is a major milestone. My daughter has been talking about being on pointe for months now. […]

In All Your Getting – Get an Understanding

In All Your Getting – Get an Understanding

The word of God says, “wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom. And with all thy getting get understanding.” (Proverbs 4:7 KJV). The day after the recent Presidential election, I was in a meeting where we were encouraged to share our feelings, thoughts and reflections about the election results. I did not feel led […]

The LORD is My Shepherd

The LORD is My Shepherd

I recently had the opportunity to share a devotion about one of my favorite bible verses. For me, when I’m asked to pick a favorite bible verse this can be challenging because I have many. For the devotion, I chose Psalm 23:1, “The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want”. (NKJV). I also like […]

I’m Taking a Social Media Diet

I’m Taking a Social Media Diet

For the past several weeks, I’ve elected to step away from social media and the local news because of all the negative and tragic events that have flooded media outlets. There was a point in time if there was a major disaster, current event or tragedy I would be glued to the news reports taking […]

A Message for Those of Us Who Are Seasoned

A Message for Those of Us Who Are Seasoned

Titus 2:3-5 A few weeks ago, I was in the shower and a random thought came from out of no-where, or so it seems. Stay with me, I’m going somewhere, I promise. I was reminded of an encounter several years ago that I had at a youth camp where I was a camp counselor. At […]

What Would You Do?

What Would You Do?

Oftentimes when I hear about a tragedy and learn intricate details of things that happened just prior to and right after the tragedy, everyone involved and how they acted or failed to act, I often ask myself what would you have done in that situation? Most of us have heard of tragedies taking place and […]

Write the Vision And Make it Plain

Write the Vision And Make it Plain

The other day, I saw a vision and affirmation sheet written by renown author Octavia Butler on a friend’s Facebook page. The Author started her affirmation by stating “I shall be a bestselling writer.” She continued her affirmations saying that her books will be best sellers whether the publishers push them or not and that […]

Tis the Season to be Jolly

Tis the Season to be Jolly

Tis the season to be jolly. This is the season for sharing and caring. With all of the recent news of mass shootings and other tragedies it is hard to get into the festive mood of the Christmas season. I personally have made a choice to limit my TV and social media time as not […]

Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?!

Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?!

A few months ago I had the privilege of speaking to a group of high school girls. The theme of my topic was “You are the Salt of the Earth” and I spoke from the stance of young ladies remaining pure and celibate prior to marriage; encouraging them to make a commitment to not have […]