Are You a Proverbs 31 Woman?

Are You a Proverbs 31 Woman?

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As a young mother in her early twenties, I participated in a Bible study on the Proverbs 31 Woman. I was a baby Christian, and I desperately wanted to become this woman of wisdom.

Every few years, I look back and see how I’ve grown with the Lord’s help. Below are the questions I’ve asked—and answered–to ascertain:

1. where I’ve succeeded.

2. where I work diligently to maintain the achieved goal.

3. where I still need to make improvements.


Verses eleven and twelve. Have I proved myself trustworthy throughout my married life?
Yes. I have done good for my husband and he knows I will continue to do so for the rest of our lives.

Verse thirteen. Am I diligent? Do I work with my hands?
That depends. I’ve always associated “working with my hands” with a person who embroiders, knits, or creates fantastic craftsy décor for her home. The most my hands do is put fingers to the computer keyboard or stir up a delicious dinner for the hubby. Please don’t force me to sew a costume for the spring musical!
I still need my hands to be a wife and a mom and a writer. I’m diligent in learning the skills to write fiction. While a teacher, I worked hard on lesson plans, in engaging my students, in loving them. And I adored my own children, encouraging them to follow where the Lord led.

Verses fourteen through fifteen. Do I provide for my family’s needs on a daily basis?
A modified yes. I feed them well and keep them in clean clothes. The rest of the house? Meh. If I have time to mop floors, clean toilets, and dust, I’ll do it. Otherwise, I wait until things are looking a bit dicey.

Verse sixteen. Do I make wise investments?
I don’t think God is talking about IRAs, pension funds, and Social Security. Money is one aspect of investing, but have I been willing to invest my life in the eternal well-being of others? While I can answer with a “yes,” I also know that I could have done more with such investments. The good news? I can start investing more deliberately today. I can expect a wonderful return in eternity!
There are other investments—in time, in training for a career, in learning a new skill. I can answer with a glad “yes.” Investments in my abilities as a teacher and as a writer have never been regretted. Now that I’m retired, I can arrange times to visit and love on neighbors or shut-ins.

Verse seventeen. Have I strengthened my arms?
That could be physical exercise or spiritual stamina. Yes to the latter. I love my devotion time with the Lord. He energizes me! And ho-hum to the former. I make the minimum effort to build biceps like Popeye’s or make sure my stomach is as flat as Goldie Hawn’s (yeah, I’m not far behind her in age!).

Verse eighteen. Do I work past sunset? Do I persevere in my work?
Ask my husband about all the evenings I sat on the floor cutting out hundreds of sight word cards or making items for my learning centers. Nowadays, writing goals energize me. I practice and I write and I write some more. This early bird has now become a night owl!

Verse twenty. Am I generous?
Never as much as I would like. While I am happy to give, and I don’t resent my tithe and offerings, I would love to have even more joy in my giving.

Verse twenty-two. Do I dress the part of a professional? You’ll have to ask people who know me! I think I dress appropriately. At home, not so much. Nothing like comfortable jeans and an over-sized tee shirt.

Verse twenty-four. Am I an entrepreneur?
Obviously, not every person is meant to go into business, but I’m working on it! Writing for financial as well as spiritual profit is my goal.

Verse twenty-five. Am I strong in Spirit? Most of the time. Like the Proverbs Thirty-one Woman, I smile at the future.

Verse twenty-eight. Do my children call me blessed?
Not long ago, one of them called me amazing. Does that count?
Does my husband praise me?
Yes, he does! Thank you, my love!


Your turn. Evaluate yourself with the above questions. Keep in mind that the woman featured in Proverbs 31 is most likely a composite of the best traits in a Godly woman.

What are your strengths? How you would like some of your answers to change in the next five years?, Ten? Twenty? How far along are you in becoming a Proverbs 31 Woman?


About Linda Sammaritan

For years, Linda Sammaritan tried to be perfect wife, perfect mother, perfect teacher and crammed so many activities into her days that twenty-four hours couldn’t possibly hold them all – perfectly. She now lives by the motto, “relentlessly eliminate hurry.” Newly retired, Linda keeps the freezer packed with homemade take-out meals for her full- time working husband when she travels to visit children, grandchildren, siblings, and Mom. Read more about her faith and writings at


  1. Laurie Driesen says:

    Love this Linda! Wow, that’s really accountability in action!

  2. Thanks, Laurie. As long as we remember this is a lifelong process, it’s not overwhelming, nor should we condemn ourselves if we’re not there yet.

  3. What a great way to pinpoint strengths and weaknesses. Thanks for sharing, Linda!

  4. Self assessment and reflection is so important. Using Proverbs as a way of doing so is a great idea. Thanks for sharing!

  5. I’m a wife and mother in her 50s now, and I’ve often used Proverbs 31 to see how I was doing. I think self-examination is a great way to show love to my husband and children without them realizing. Am I caring for them as God wants me to? Good post. I’m glad you shared it.

  6. Chloe Flanagan says:

    I love how you assessed your life verse by verse. That’s a great example of really being intentional in your faith walk as a mother and wife.

  7. Lisa, I appreciate how you used Scripture as a way to self-assess and measure how we are meeting God’s expectations. Proverbs is such good Scripture to use as it helps define godly wisdom for us.

  8. Kudos to you, Linda, for putting yourself out there and for remaining committed to God and His plan for you. I don’t often spend time in looking back, though I do self reflection on a smaller scale as life happens throughout the year. However, when I look back at 2018, I’m thankful for how God has directed my steps and for His mercy and grace and I live and fail and succeed. Blessings to you and your family in 2019.

  9. You’re right, Stephen. I spend far more time looking forward. But an “annual check-up” helps me keep life in perspective. Thank you for your kind comments.

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