Can’t trust ’em

Can’t trust ’em

Spread the love

Just go with your gut

Trust your heart

If it feels good do it

Listen to your heart

Follow your dreams

We see these phrases on wall hangings, social media memes, and T-shirts. It all sounds so nice. They all imply that our emotions can be trusted. After all, your heart would never lead you down the wrong path, right?

I was talking to a friend yesterday about where we would be right now if God had not gotten ahold of us when He did. Personally, if I had spent the past six decades following my heart, listening to my gut, and doing whatever feels good, I’d be in a world of hurt right now. I’ve suffered enough from the moments, days, and seasons when I decided to listen to whatever my emotions, hormones, or what I ate for supper the night before were telling me to do!

Put one of these symbols over everything on that list! 


In Jeremiah 17:9, we read “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked, who can understand it?” Not me!

I’ve been noticing lately how many people begin a statement of opinion with the words “I feel like…” Not “I think,” or “I’ve heard,” or “I’ve read,” but “I feel like…” I find that interesting. It’s as if we’ve come to a point where what we feel supersedes what we know.

Some years back I was a counselor at a crisis pregnancy center. I met with a young woman and, after counseling her about the matter she came in about, I talked to her about Jesus. She listened and then said, “Well, you have your truth and I have mine.”


It scares me to think of future generations going through life making up their own “truths.”

Those of us who are Christ followers know where we need to go to find guidance, but even for us it’s often hard to discern between our own thoughts and desires and the promptings of the Holy Spirit. Through prayer, fasting, reading scripture, and seeking counsel from trusted believers, we strive to please and obey God. We have a compass, Someone to turn to for direction, but we are living in a world that is increasingly dependent on gut feelings and emotions for guidance.

So how do we, without being obnoxiously confrontational, start conversations about Absolute Truth? Maybe one small thing is just being aware of how we state opinions. Saying “I believe ________ because of what the Bible says” rather than “I feel like…”

I’d love to hear your opinions on how to help people become critical thinkers, to realize that it just doesn’t make sense that you can have your truth and I can have mine and, even if they are diametrically opposed, it’s all good as long as we both feel good about it.

Then you will KNOW the truth, and the truth will set you free. John 8:32


Becky Melby About Becky Melby

Wisconsin resident Becky Melby is the author of the Lost Sanctuary Series and a dozen other contemporary fiction titles. Married for 43 years, mother of four, grandmother to fifteen, Becky thrives on writing, reading, camping, rides on the back of a silver Gold Wing, and time with family. Connect with her at her website or Facebook.


  1. Bettilu Davies says:

    Very good, Becky.

  2. I echo Bettilu. This is great, Becky. Thank you.

  3. Tough question, Becky. No matter what Christians say, we will offend someone. But you’re gentle start of “I believe…” is the least confrontational.

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