How to Ravish God’s Heart

How to Ravish God’s Heart

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You have ravished my heart,
My sister, my spouse;
You have ravished my heart
With one look of your eyes

Song of Solomon 4:9 NKJV

The June air is thin and brisk. It stings my lungs, and I pull my fleece jacket around my neck to keep the chill out.  Towering granite peaks surround us on the lodge of the deck – black against a midnight sky, discernible only against the backdrop of a million shining stars.  I swear there are more stars in the Wyoming sky than anywhere I’ve been.

A cowboy picks his guitar on the far end of the deck and sings softly – verses about country roads and barbed wire. I’m on vacation with a friend, and we’re visiting the wilderness school where I worked in college.  We’re connecting with old friends and meeting new ones.

From across the deck, a blue-eyed summer staff member keeps locking his eyes with mine, and I struggle to look away. Something about the whole scene feels more like a romance novel than reality, and I remind myself I’m not looking for a man.

A dozen years later, those same blue eyes catch mine across the room. I’m covered in applesauce, scrubbing the upholstered seats of the dining room chairs for the eighth time this week.  A toddler clings to my back, yelling, “Giddee-up,” and a six-year-old inadvertently drops crayons onto my head from the table above me.  I glance up to see him looking at me from the living room, and his eyes look the same as they did the first night we met.  My heart melts just a little bit, and I find the strength to keep scrubbing.

Anyone who has exchanged a tender glance with a loved one knows about the ravished heart. The ravished heart is the heart that’s deeply emotionally moved by a simple gesture.  It’s the bride who gazes adoringly at her groom.  It’s the elderly couple holding hands in the corner booth.  It’s the warm gaze of a friend who understands when no one else gets it.  It’s the look that captivates the heart with joy.

Song of Solomon is a beautiful depiction of a healthy marriage. While there is debate over how intricately we should apply the symbolism in this book, one thing is clear: Time and time again throughout Scripture, Christ refers to himself as the bridegroom and his church as the bride.  Bearing this in mind, we can conclude that, at the very least, the principles for a healthy marriage are a proper depiction of the principles for a healthy relationship with Christ.

As the bride of Christ, his followers hold the power to ravish his heart. We hold the potential to captivate and stir his heart with a simple glance in his direction.  When I pause from the tasks of my day and look to him, his heart is ravished for me.  When I notice his hand in the world around me and look to him, his heart is ravished for me.  When I momentarily cease from activity and glance toward him, his heart is ravished for me.

Encountering the ravished heart of Christ is the most satisfying experience of the human life. When we taste just a bit of his passionate love for us, we are filled in the deepest places, satisfied in the purest way, and abundantly filled.

Christ longs for us to look his way millions of times throughout our lives. He longs to walk in constant communion – a place where we’re constantly undone by his ravished heart for us.  He longs for us to find our identities solely through the fact that we are wildly loved by him.

When we embrace his passionate love for us, we are free to love others with pure motives. We’re free to offer our lives in service to others without the fear of not measuring up.  We’re free from performance-based living, people pleasing, and self-doubt.  When we embrace his ravished heart and live from that place, we are set on fire with his passion to make his truth known to the world.

I push the last chair into the table and carry the youngest cowboy to the couch with his father. We sit together and watch the daylight fade, and I remember the night on the deck in Wyoming.  I thank God for the hundreds of exchanged gazes since that night, and I look upward with warm affection.

About Stacey Pardoe

Stacey Pardoe is a wife, mother of two young children, writer, Bible teacher, and mentor. She is most passionate about walking closely with Christ and sharing his love with a broken world. Find out more about her at her website.


  1. This is beautiful, Stacey! A wonderful reminder.

  2. I need a row of Facebook heart icons!

  3. Tina Dorward says:

    Beautifully written and expressed Stacey!

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