For When You Wish You Were Different

For When You Wish You Were Different

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A photo of an Olympic sprinter greeted me every morning when I opened my locker as a teen. She had great abs.  I kept the photo there to inspire myself to strive for abs like hers, and every afternoon I went home and did 1,280 crunches.  You don’t forget a number like that.

I did have really strong abs with decent definition. But I never made it to the Olympics for my speed.

In college, I decided to be really smart instead. I scoffed at the idea of getting a B and made it a point to have the highest test grade in every class where the professor announced the top score.  It went pretty well, but it still seemed something was missing.  I looked at the super-pretty girls with their straightened hair, thick mascara, and exposed midriffs, and I wanted what they had too.

I’m well into my thirties now, and I still do it. I walk into a room and admire the fashion sense of woman whose purse always matches her shoes.  I admire the other ladies who show up for the moms’ group with perfectly styled hair.  I watch CMT and wonder how Faith Hill still looks completely stunning.  I wish I were different.

If you’re human, and especially if you’re a woman, I’m guessing you’ve wanted to be different at some point too. How long does it take you to fill in this blank: If I could change one thing about myself, it would be my________.

What does God see when he looks at you?

For starters, he’s captivated by you. Do you remember the first time you were in love?  Do you remember the way he looked at you across the room?  One look from his eyes captivated your heart.  You swore it might leap right out of your chest.  You were completely undone.

What if every time you paused in your daily activity to look toward God, he came completely undone, like a lover across a crowded room? Song of Solomon 4:9 says just that: “You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride.  You have captivated my heart with one look of your eyes.”

Stop what you’re doing and look up toward Jesus. He’s captivated, moved, and ravished by your love.

If we can learn to walk in the reality of his captivated heart, we will find ourselves completely undone by his love in return. It will be like a constant river pouring out torrents of Living Water, and we will be filled.  When we grasp just a piece of his ravished heart for us, our identities are completely grounded in the fact that we are his.  Belonging to Jesus is all I need to be.  Caught up in his love is all I long to be.

When I know I am his and he is mine, my hair doesn’t matter quite so much. I believe he loves me as I am.  When I know I am his and he is mine, those extra fifteen pounds don’t tear down my self-esteem or ruin my day.  When I know I am his and he is mine, I’m free to walk into any and every social situation and pour love out on others, not looking for who will include me or make me feel important, but looking for who needs my love.  I can face rejection, criticism, insults, and failure, because I know nothing can separate me from his love (Romans 8:38-39).

Friend, if you want to be different today – if you want to change the way you look, what you do for a living, or who you are – will you first pause and take a look toward Jesus? He is ravished by you.  His heart leaps when you look toward him.

There may be sin from which he wants to set you free in your life. There may be changes he longs to make to your life.  But these are secondary, and they’re only an overflow of his tenderness toward you.  He tenderly looks toward you today, and he wants you to know that you ravish his heart.

About Stacey Pardoe

Stacey Pardoe is a wife, mother of two young children, writer, Bible teacher, and mentor. She is most passionate about walking closely with Christ and sharing his love with a broken world. Find out more about her at her website.


  1. Beautiful words, Stacey! Thank you for these reminders of truth.

  2. Wow, Stacey, this post was amazing and so true. I don’t know how many times I’ve looked at friends or even family members and thought, “If only I had their _____. This post reminded me that we are all valued and treasured by our Savior just as we are. Thank you for sharing.

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