Forgive, As the Lord Forgave You

Forgive, As the Lord Forgave You

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For me, forgiving those who have trespassed against me can be hard; especially, if the treatment is unprovoked or unwarranted. When faced with difficult moments in life that require I forgive someone for treating me wrong, I’m always reminded of Colossians 3:13, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” I particularly found comfort and solace in this scripture a few months ago when I learned that the person who had molested me as child had tragically died.

When I heard the news, I wasn’t shocked, happy or sad. I honestly didn’t feel anything. What immediately came to mind was a point in time when I was a young adult and having difficulty coming to terms with what happened, why it happened, forgiving the person and moving on with my life. I was reminded of the words that brought comfort to my troubled spirit at that time, “forgive him – you don’t have to forget, just forgive and move on with your life. If he does not repent for his sins he will meet a tragic and untimely death.” The fact that he did die in a very tragic and untimely manner made me wonder if he was ever repentant of things that he had done in life and in specific to me. I admit, I contemplated this thought for a couple of days before moving on. Part of my self-therapy and the much needed help I received to get past his death was sharing with my siblings what he had done.

Up until that point, many people in my life knew that I had been molested as a child because I share this in my memoir, however no one but my husband knew the identity of the perpetrator. Sharing this information with my siblings brought on several emotions for them ranging from anger to sadness to empathy for me. After an in-depth sibling discussion via our group text, I think we all felt better and this helped me move forward in forgiveness.

I’m thankful to a God who didn’t promise that our journey as Christians would be easy, but always promised to be there with us. And because of God’s infinite love, grace and mercy I stand today as a victor and not a victim of anything that has happened to me. Just as the Word says, “whom the son sets free, is free indeed!” (John 8:36).


Terry Cato About Terry Cato

Terry Cato is a Talk Show Host, Author and relationship blogger. She is the Founder of Relationships 411, a blog community dedicated to healthy relationships and marriages. She is the Host of Real Talk w/Terry a Bay Area talk show focusing on relationship and lifestyle topics. Her memoir, “No Longer a Bridesmaid!” chronicles the 7 years she was single, celibate and believing God for a husband. Feel Free to Follow Terry on Twitter and visit her website for more information about the Author.

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