Why I Don’t Ask God Why

Why I Don’t Ask God Why

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I don’t ask God why. Never have. Most people are shocked by that.

”Never?” they ask. I shake my head.

I’m sure, like me, you heard too many why’s growing up that no one could ever answer. Why did a child have to die just as they graduated? Why didn’t God take away a person’s pain when we prayed so hard for Him to do so? Why did a spouse die just as they began their retirement, curtailing all the dreams of travel and relaxing days ahead? Why did a woman have to go through the pains of childbirth knowing her baby was already dead?

My ways are so far above your ways. I remember hearing this Scripture message from Isaiah being read in Church. “My thoughts are not your thoughts.” It was the only answer that made sense to me, and I accepted it as the explanation God gave for our whys. It was good enough for me.


I knew He loved us. He sacrificed His only Son out of unimaginable love for us. I cannot grasp the anguish of watching your Son die,

knowing you can ease His pain, knowing you can stop it at any moment, and allowing it. Allowing Him to die.  A love like that is too big for me to grasp. My mind shuts down when I try to imagine it.


I suppose the apostles, Jesus’ mother, Mary, and the women who served Jesus held many questions in their minds after Jesus’s death. The main one had to be why? Why did He have to die? He healed so many people, He worked so many miracles. Why did He allow the torture, the humiliations, the nails into his hands and feet? Why didn’t He do something about it? Why didn’t His Father?

We often have to wait for answers and we don’t like that. But the answer does come. It’s like a flower that over time, opens to reveal its exquisite beauty. When it’s a tight bud, we cannot see its beauty. Our whys keep the bud tight.


God knows my heart’s every desire. He created them! And when it’s appropriate for me to know, He gives me understanding. And when it’s not appropriate or helpful to me to know, he doesn’t.


I am His child. When we talk things over with a child, we explain some things; we hold back other details. As a child gets older, she receives more difficult tasks which teach wisdom and prudence, discipline and patience. We may not like those tasks at the time, but later in life, we realize their value to us.

There are variables that God allowed in His creation (e.g. our free will and the devil and his minions) that act like free radicals in the Body of Christ. It boggles my mind every time I try to imagine Him turning the thoughts and events of people everywhere toward the good of all. It gives me a headache. So I choose to simply trust Him instead. It’s much easier.


Isaiah 55:8-9:

For My thoughts are not your thoughts,

Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the LORD.

For as the heavens are higher than the earth,

So are My ways higher than your ways

And My thoughts than your thoughts.


About Chris Manion

The parable of the talents drives Chris Manion to keep sharing what God offers her. God’s joy and compassion shows in her award-winning memoir, God’s Patient Pursuit of My Soul which she wrote while rearing two children and running a home-based multi-million dollar business. She speaks about trusting God and how to hear His voice. She's a musician, loves to laugh and eat M&Ms, and teaches children of all ages. Visit her website for more info.


  1. Laurie Driesen says:

    I guess when we ask why we are really telling God that we know better! It’s our pride or wanting to be in control. There is a verse in Isaiah that really helped me stop asking questions- it’s 45:11 and God says, do you question me or give me orders about the work of my hands? I read that when I was questioning God about an issue in my life and ever since I read that verse I have turned away from the “why” question!

    • “Do you question me?” That would be a fearsome question to hear from God, don’t you think?

      It certainly can be our pride, feeling that we know better. Yes, Laurie. I think wanting to be in control is very much tied to pride. I also sometimes just want to understand. I’m not sure that’s pride. Maybe intellectual pride? I have a logical brain. Once I understand how or why something is generating a cause-and-effect, I’m usually satisfied, even if I don’t agree. It’s the not knowing part with which I often struggle.

      Thanks for sharing Isaiah 45:11. It’s as good as Job 38 and 39. Here are a few verses from Chapter 38 where God is making his point to Job abundantly clear about Who knows the why of things and how it’s not possible for humans to fathom the answers to the whys we (want to) ask.

      28Does the rain have a father?
      Who fathers the drops of dew?
      29 From whose womb comes the ice?
      Who gives birth to the frost from the heavens
      30 when the waters become hard as stone,
      when the surface of the deep is frozen?

      34“Can you raise your voice to the clouds
      and cover yourself with a flood of water?
      35 Do you send the lightning bolts on their way?
      Do they report to you, ‘Here we are’?
      36 Who gives the ibis wisdom
      or gives the rooster understanding?
      37 Who has the wisdom to count the clouds?
      Who can tip over the water jars of the heavens
      38 when the dust becomes hard
      and the clods of earth stick together?

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