Sometimes Life is a Struggle

Sometimes Life is a Struggle

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If it isn’t appliance failures, or car trouble, it’s problems your adult children face and no way for you to help them…other than prayer and a listening ear. Lately, for me, it has been additional health problems to add to my collection, but that is a story for another day.

I consider my recent crocheting problems to be a microcosm of life. Months ago I saw a crochet pattern that I really liked. I printed out the instructions and picked up my favorite G hook. I wanted to make a baby blanket in the box stitch pattern.

I did see the paragraph that explained that double crochet (dc) for Europeans is the same as single crochet (sc) for Americans. What didn’t sink in was that the printed instructions read dc/sc in second chain from start and continued on with  both abbreviations. I crocheted half a row before I realized I was putting too many stitches in each chain. I was creating circles—circles that bunched up and didn’t look anything like the shell that was pictured in the pattern. I was trying to crochet both the European and the American instructions.

Life lesson learned: Don’t get so enthusiastic about your Christian service that you try to do, not only the work that God intended for you to do, but also the work that He intended for someone else. You will end up all bunched up inside and start going around in circles.

I tore out my work and started over. I thought I understood the pattern, but I was fooling myself. I didn’t get it at all. I won’t go into details because not everyone reading this will understand crochet instructions nor care to wade through my tribulations with this pattern. My struggles went on. I carefully read the instructions, watched YouTube videos, and threw the aborted efforts aside and started work on another, simpler pattern—an afghan that was supposed to be completed in a weekend and which only took me three months to do.

All the time the crocheted box stitch pattern was on my mind. I tried again. To date, I have ripped out my stitches probably five or six times and have watched YouTube instructions probably another six or seven times. I think I’m beginning to get it. I can only crochet for a short time each session because my hands get tired and my arms sore. (Arthritis slows me down sometimes.) But I am beginning to feel a sense of accomplishment. After a week of work, I have actually finished six rows.

Regarding failure, my awesome husband said, “We too often fail in the path of least persistence. It evaporates in the accomplishment of applied dedication.”

I Thessalonians 4:11, 12 (NASB) says, “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own business and work with your own hands, just as we commanded you, so that you may behave properly toward outsiders and not be in any need.”

Bettilu Davies About Bettilu Davies

Bettilu Davies is a wife, mother, grandmother, and great grandmother. She has authored six published books, first writing fiction for children and teens and recently branching into adult Christian fiction. She has taught piano since 1968 and enjoys reading, crocheting, knitting, paper art, and painting in oils, acrylics and water color.


  1. I love your husband’s quote!

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