Does God Have Favorites?

Does God Have Favorites?

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Have you ever wondered if God likes some people more than others?  After all, some people really seem to be blessed with so much.  The Bible highlights God’s powerful intervention and blessings in the lives of Abraham, Joseph, Daniel and David.  Jesus took only three of His disciples up to the Mount of Transfiguration.  And John refers to himself as “The disciple whom Jesus loved.”   Does God love some people more than others and what does it take to be one of God’s “favorites”?

If you have ever felt like you are not one of God’s favorite people, then I have good news for you.

God does not have favorites, but He does have intimates

God does not choose some people to bless and leave the rest of us to make our own way out of life’s messes.  The Bible teaches that God loves all people, He is not willing that any should perish, but that all would come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9).  God loves everyone unconditionally, calling them to repentance and inviting them into relationship with Him, through His Son, Jesus Christ.

Years ago, my Sunday Bible teacher said, “Remember, God does not have favorites, but He does have intimates.”  I thought, Wow! So that’s why some people seem to enjoy God more than others.  That’s why some may not even feel close to God.  It all depends on the level of intimacy we have with Him.

Some believe that going to church or doing things for God means they are close to Him. Those are necessary and wonderful things, but people may do them and possibly miss true, personal intimacy with God.  Reading the Bible, praying, conversing with God and listening to what He says brings us closer to Him.  I’ve learned that in order to have the intimacy that I want with God, I must take time every day to study the Bible and talk to God in prayer.  God is always there for me; when I feel distant it’s because I’ve strayed from that important quiet time with Him.

Intimacy takes work, doesn’t it?  In all of our relationships, it takes time and effort to build intimacy.

Barriers to intimacy with God

1) Lack of faith.  When we have faith we are trusting God and placing our hope in Him.  We can’t have intimacy with God while placing our hope in something or someone else.

2) Unbelief.  Our relationship with God grows as we believe His Word.  We believe God is who He says He is and will do what He says He will do.

3) Sin.  Making a mistake and asking for forgiveness may happen often, but deliberately living in sin creates a barrier to closeness with God.  The only way back into intimacy is true repentance, turning from our sin and being cleansed by forgiveness.

Secret to intimacy with God

The most distinguishing characteristic that brings us to a deeper level of intimacy with God is… total surrender.  A vibrant, fulfilling, intimate relationship with God will have this unique quality… a heart that is completely surrendered to Him.

Full surrender… the key to the deepest intimacy we can experience with God.


Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you.  James 4:8a



Laurie Driesen About Laurie Driesen

Laurie Driesen is a writer, entrepreneur and business owner. Her passion is to encourage and strengthen people's faith by sharing the truth of God's Word through her writing. In her recently published book, Beyond Regret - Living Your Life Purpose in Spite of Past Choices, Laurie shares how God uses our mistakes and detours to lead us into His will and accomplish His true purpose for our lives. Check out her website for more.


  1. Beautiful message. Yes, when I draw near to God, I find that He is already there waiting for me. 🙂

  2. Laurie Driesen says:

    Thanks for your comment Melissa. I love that God is so faithful, that is my favorite thing about Him!

  3. Linda Lijewski says:

    Wonderful message and so well said. Thank you, Laurie!!

  4. I love this distinction that the Lord doesn’t have favorites, but does have His intimacies. Thanks for this wonderful reminder that it’s up to us how near or distant we are to the Father.

  5. Laurie Driesen says:

    Thanks for your comment Cynthia – Our relationship with God is so unique, isn’t it? I love that I can talk to Him any time of day or night. What marvelous intimacy!

  6. Laurie Driesen says:

    Thank you Linda, you are such an encourager!

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