To Esteem

To Esteem

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I’ve been watching other people’s behavior for a while now. As a writer, I think it’s part of my writer brain searching for characteristics to give my characters or the desire for story ideas. What I’ve seen breaks my heart.

Some people are walking around like they are better than “them.” You know, the person(s) who is unlike you in every way imaginable. Perhaps because they come from a different background, different class, or sin in a different way. Whatever the case, it seems we struggle to see another person as the same as us. Worthy of respect even.

We’re often quick to point out our differences in the desire to show the world how completely different they are from us. We want to create that distance (and often elevation) to show how much better we are. But is that what the Bible calls us to do?

“Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.”
– Philippians 2:3 KJV

Yes, you read that correctly. Let’s take a moment to stop and reflect on this verse.



The Lord wants us to put another’s need above our own. To imagine the other person is better than ourselves. The verse continues to say,

“Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus…”
– Philippians 2:4-5 KJV

Just imagine how humanity would look like if every single person held this as true. For it is a characteristic that when held, makes us more Christ-like. And isn’t that what we desire?

Today, I challenge you to esteem others better than yourself. Before forming a retort during an argument, or Facebook post, or whatever inflammatory situation you find yourself in, esteem them as better. Watch how the situation dynamics change as well as your heart. Your actions will draw you closer to our Lord and Savior.

Toni Shiloh About Toni Shiloh

Toni Shiloh is a wife, mom, and Christian fiction writer. Once she understood the powerful saving grace thanks to the love of Christ, she was moved to honor her Savior. She writes to bring Him glory and to learn more about His goodness. You can visit Toni at her website.


  1. YES! I loved this: “or sin in a different way.” I think it’s a tool of the devil to get us to look at others more closely than ourselves. God tells us we are all sinners for a reason.

    My new attitude is to try and look at this person as God does first, but as you pointed out it can be a challenge on places like social media or when we don’t know them. That’s why your advice is so spot on.

  2. A great message! I have shared this on my Facebook page. 🙂 Thank you.

  3. You’re so right, Toni. How simple would it be to simply shift our perspective when we encounter these moments? Just like following the Golden Rule or loving others more than ourselves…the words seem so simple. In most cases, if we’d stop to think before we speak or act, if we’d shift our perspective to esteem others, to do unto others, to love others, the perspective would help us overcome our “humanness” and love more like Jesus. (I say “in most cases” because, at least for me, sometimes my humanness really gets in the way!) Thanks for sharing this!

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