No One’s Perfect

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As a writer, I do my best to create true-to-life novel characters. In order to connect with readers, it’s essential they can relate. No one’s perfect. Neither should novel characters be perfect.

As I reflected on this, I recalled a story of two women, one a Christian, the other a non-believer. So eager to portray the Christian life in a positive light, the Christian woman did her best to present herself as always happy and in total control. Yet, she never quite seemed to gain the woman’s attention, let alone her respect or friendship.

Then one day, a traumatic event happened in the life of the Christian woman, driving her almost to the breaking point. Through tears of frustration and release, she expressed her anguish and insecurities to the non-believer.

To the Christian woman’s astonishment, the non-Christian acquaintance told her, “Now we can be friends.” Why? Because she could finally relate to her.  In attempt at being perfect, the Christian had made herself unapproachable.

I wonder, do we ever try to portray ourselves as perfect? If we’re honest, I’m sure we’d all like others to think we have it all together. But, like my flawed novel characters, I have to wonder, would we have more of an impact on our non-Christian friends, neighbors, and co-workers if we let our hair down now and then, and let them know we’re no more “perfect” or “righteous” than them? Just forgiven?

Isaiah 64:6 tells us. “All of us have become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous acts are like filthy rags.” Our righteousness comes through Christ and His sacrifice for our sins. We’ve all sinned and fallen short of God’s glory. (Romans 3:23) The Lord alone is perfect.

When we act as though we have no problems, or can handle anything that comes our way, in reality, aren’t we downplaying Christ’s role in our lives? Instead, when troubles come, we need to be honest about our struggles and humbly give God the glory for bringing us through.

We’re all bound to fail from time to time, but as 2 Corinthians 12:10 states, it’s in our weakness, we are strong. For it’s then, Christ’s love and power shine through most clearly.






Cynthia Roemer About Cynthia Roemer

Cynthia Roemer is a Christian writer from rural Illinois with a heart for scattering seeds of hope into the lives of others through her writing. She and her husband, Marvin, have been married for twenty-four years and have two college-age sons. Find out more about her and her writing on her website:


  1. Laurie Driesen says:

    I am so glad I read your post Cynthia! I do try too hard to always be “good” around my non-Christian friends. This was such an eye-opener for me to just be myself and be “relatable”. Thank you!

  2. Cynthia, I love this. I’ve actually been “scolded” by some of my Christian pals because I’ve admitted on my blog that I’ve been angry at God. But the point is, he brought me through it. I can’t pretend to be something I’m not and God doesn’t want us to, for many reasons. Reaching others and becoming friends, as you point out, means that we need to be real.

  3. Thanks, Laurie. I think we all try too hard at times, when what we really need to do is trust. So glad it spoke to you. God bless!

  4. You’re in good company, Cherie. Even David, “a man after God’s own heart” expressed anger at God. The Lord is bigger than our emotions. He loves when we share our honest feelings with him. It’s through that honesty true healing begins. Thanks so much for your comment and for being real. Blessings!

  5. Ann Doohan says:

    So true Cynthia, people need to see something real not a religion, blessings.

  6. But I think there are two sides to that. We also must endeavour, I believe, to let the King work through us so as not to bring disgrace on His Name.

  7. Amen! Thanks, Ann. God bless.

  8. Absolutely, Margaret. We must always remain faithful to God’s principles, but in a way that doesn’t make us unapproachable. In the world, but not of the world. Thanks for your comment. God bless.

  9. Thank you for sharing! I nearly wrote a blog post this week about something I’ve been struggling with, but I changed the subject. You’re right, we do need to share our troubles. You’ve encouraged me to write that post soon.

  10. Good for you, Heather. I’m so glad you’ve been encouraged. May the Lord speak to many through your post. God bless!

  11. Laurie Driesen says:

    Margaret, you raise a very good point. We should always be careful about our witness and never be careless about it. I’m sure there is a fine line between being ourselves and making sure we are good witnesses. May the Holy Spirit lead us to find the right balance and never forget who we represent!

  12. Amen to that, Laurie!

  13. Janet K Brown says:

    I love this post, Cynthia. I fought perfectionism for years. I have to pray to keep it at bay. Now, I strive for realism. It’s the only way to be effective and witnessing. We all have problems, and sometimes we fail at them.

  14. Thanks so much, Janet. You’re so right. The Lord can use us most when we’re humble. God bless.

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