Driving Backwards – Guilt In The Driver’s Seat

Driving Backwards – Guilt In The Driver’s Seat

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I make mistakes. Huge ones, small ones, medium sized ones, just lots of them. Looking back at this past year, I see so many things that I could have done better.

As a mom, guilt floods in at the very mention of my shortcomings. You would think that sitting down to reflect on last year and setting goals for next year would be encouraging.


I’m a mom. I wear guilt like a second skin. But this year as I began to feel the familiar guilt roll in, I was reminded that God didn’t intend it to be like that.

Such a simple thought, but a deep truth. Guilt over the past does not bring benefit to the future. Who I was yesterday, last week, last year is not who I am today.

If life’s journey were taken by driving a car and I spent all of my time looking in the rearview mirror, I would crash. Even though we don’t drive a car, it is impossible to see what God has for us moving forward when we are constantly focused on what is behind us.

The Bible says:

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.  See, I am doing a new thing!  Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?  I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”  Isaiah 43:18-19 (NIV)

This year I am trying to embrace this new thing that God is going to do. Leaving the guilt behind, I’m waiting to see how God will make a way for me in the future.

Looking forward I can see how he makes a way in the wilderness, how he brings something new, and how he refreshes me, even in a difficult situation.

I’m determined to leave behind guilt, especially the one about being a better mom(is there a mom out there who doesn’t feel this?).

What guilt are you leaving behind to embrace God’s new beginning for you this year?





Michelle Lim About Michelle Lim

Michelle Lim is the author of Idea Sparking: How to Brainstorm Conflict in Your Novel and a Romantic Suspense writer. She is the Brainstorm/Huddle Coach at My Book Therapy and serves as the Midwest Zone Director for the American Christian Fiction Writers (ACFW). For more, catch up with her at her blog.


  1. Lisa Lickel says:

    I fine myself reliving the best doozies of parenthood as I am now a grandmother. I definitely want to move on with “what’s new” with child-raising, as well as not feeling guilty for the unintended woe I inflicted on mine. Who both turned out pretty well despite me. 🙂

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