Directed Steps

Directed Steps

“The mind of man plans his way, but the LORD directs his steps.” Proverbs 16:9

People have often told me that I am good at planning whether it be parties, corporate events or teaching, I love to plan. I am a detail person and I function best when I know what those details are and the plan is laid out before me.

But Scripture tells us that only God can truly make plans because He’s the One who knows all. We can however, listen for God’s leading and allow God to direct us in our choices, in the paths we take and in the relationships we have.

This is an area I constantly struggle with. I’m not sure why really because I learned many years ago that none of us really have much control of anything yet I continue to grasp for it and get frustrated when it forever seems intangible.

For quite a few years I’ve been wanting something specific to happen that still hasn’t happened even though I’ve prayed continuously about it. I know God hears our prayers and I know God will make His plans for me clear but in the interim, it can be frustrating and discouraging.

Aside from that, we are getting ready to take our youngest son to college in a few short weeks. I want to stop time. Unfortunately, God hasn’t given me that authority so alas, I will be saying goodbye to the family nucleus that we have had for 19 years with him. I realize it’s what’s best and he’s definitely ready to soar but I’m not ready to let him. I wonder if God ever feels this way? He allows us to leave and walk away from Him and although He ultimately knows whether we will return, I’m sure it’s difficult when He sees one of His beloved turn away.

Letting go requires trust. It requires leaning into the uncomfortable, to accepting change which is something most everyone doesn’t care for and I’m no exception! I also realize that without trusting and letting go, we never are given that opportunity to become all God has planned for our lives. And so in both situations, I am choosing to let go of my desire to control the uncontrollable and instead turn my heart and my mind toward God and trust in His great plans for my life, our sons’ lives and our world which seems so out of control right now. How about you? What do you need to stop trying to control and turn over to God?


Tina Dorward About Tina Dorward

Tina Dorward is a fully-devoted follower of Christ who loves spending time with her husband and two sons and volunteering at her local church. In her free time she reads, writes, paints and cooks.


  1. Tina,
    While I have surrendered my sons to God, there are still moments (thirty years later!) that I feel “responsible” for their well-being. And once again, I must be reminded that they are in God’s capable hands and don’t need my shaky grasp. He has taken care of my boy in the Army from Iraq to Afghanistan, my doctor son in the African bush, and continues to watch over my diabetic son. There is so much freedom in trusting Him!

  2. Tina Dorward says:

    Thanks Linda for taking the time to comment and thank you to your son for his service. A real blessing to us all. And what a gift for your son to help those in the African bush. I guess you can def speak to not having them close by and needing to trust then into God’s loving care. Thanks for the reminder.

  3. Laurie Driesen says:

    You are right, even when we feel like we’re in control, we’re really not! I do trust God but it is hard when what I see is exactly the opposite of what I am expecting God to do. I know that when I really, truly trust God, I do experience peace knowing He is in control.

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