Sometimes I just don’t know what to say…

Sometimes I just don’t know what to say…

Some people seem able to say the right thing at the right time in practically every situation. At least it seems that way to me.

I used to be intimidated by my very clever sister-in-law who could fill every gap in conversation with a funny story or gentle teasing. I didn’t even try to converse much around her because I was sure I was going to say something stupid, and everyone would stop and stare at me blankly. It happened more than once, so I just kept my mouth shut.

Over the years, that has ceased being a problem. I know her better and am much more relaxed. I’ve even found out that sometimes she feels inadequate, too. Go figure!

Sometimes my children will call me on the phone and tell me about a problem that is bothering them. I will listen to them, and think back to times in my life when I have had a similar circumstance. Maybe I will give them suggestions for possible solutions, but most of the time they have already tried them. Most people are intelligent enough to come up with their own solutions, and just need a listening ear.

Sometimes problems are more serious. If a friend is diagnosed with a serious illness, or if there is a death on her family, anything I say might be trite and doesn’t help at all. At these times, I can only hug them, tell them I will be praying for them and listen while they talk. Sometimes they don’t need words; they just need someone to comfort them.

In Luke 12 Jesus was telling the disciples that sometimes they would be mistreated or persecuted because they were His followers. He said they shouldn’t be afraid of those that could kill the body, but rather fear the One who had power that could cast them into Hell. A few verses later, He told them they might be brought up before judges, but not to worry, because “The Holy Spirit will teach you in that very hour what you ought to say.” (Luke 12:12)

I sometimes forget the context of Luke 12:12, but I remember the verse, because I think it applies to the everyday situations when we need to speak, but don’t know exactly what to say. Taking time for a quick prayer for guidance, we can trust that God will cause us to speak as He directs.

When I started out to write this blog entry, I couldn’t think of a single thing to say, but that’s all right. I hope it helps someone who is reading this.



Bettilu Davies About Bettilu Davies

Bettilu Davies is a wife, mother, grandmother, and great grandmother. She has authored six published books, first writing fiction for children and teens and recently branching into adult Christian fiction. She has taught piano since 1968 and enjoys reading, crocheting, knitting, paper art, and painting in oils, acrylics and water color.

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