It is not what’s on the outside that matters most…

It is not what’s on the outside that matters most…

It is so hard being a woman, because from the top of our heads to the bottom of our feet there seems to always be something to do. If I am not shaving my legs, I am doing my hair and if I am not putting on make-up I am picking out an outfit. Honestly, it can all be exhausting and in the end so unproductive. Clothes are like a piece of jewelry, so I find that I indulge more than I need to and end up shopping more than I ought to. A girl like me who has always enjoyed second-hand clothing loves consignment shops– don’t mess with it, it’s my thing! The energy generated when I slip on a new outfit after finding a great bargain is amazing, but what happens when that doesn’t work anymore? What happens when you discover that clothes, make-up, jewelry, and a new haircut simply aren’t “cutting it” any longer? If we don’t watch it we can slowly lose sight of what really matters, because it’s not perfume, clothes, or shopping which creates the beauty that should be shining on the outside of us. Being made in His image and embracing our self-worth, due to that understanding, is what really makes us beautiful–inside and out!

What I love about having God in my life is that his love, grace, and mercy has never been about what I looked like at all. If I wake up tomorrow and fail to brush my teeth, wash my hair, shave my legs, or get dressed in the morning God will still be there loving on me anyway. Something I found out after going through a divorce eight years ago. It is that experience which reminds me of something Jesus said in the Gospel of Matthew. It is here that Jesus speaks to his disciples when the religious leaders became offended after Jesus implied that they were unclean. Jesus says, “Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then out of the body?But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man’unclean’ (Matthew 15:17).

Jesus did many miracles while here on earth, but the greatest miracle was changing the heart of man. I am so glad we serve a God who is always focusing on the inner work that we choose to invest in, the circumcised heart,  and not the outfit we’re wearing while doing so. God doesn’t care what we look like when we’re feeding the homeless, praying for the lost, or spending quality time with the elderly. It is not our position, wealth, status, job, or pedigree that distinguishes us in His eyes. No, it is our heart posture, during our spiritual formation which counts the most.

So with that all being said, I’ve decided not to wash my hair this morning 🙂


D. C. Lassiter About D. C. Lassiter

D. C. Lassiter is host of the Dovetales radio show and author of Beyond the Face of the Movies, a non-fiction, Christian Living book. You can find D.C. Lassiter on her online blog and on Facebook page.


  1. Great post!

  2. How true. And we all need to be reminded again and again, because the world does its best to tell us otherwise.

  3. Thanks for the reminder. It’s so easy to get caught up in the world’s messages.

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