Watch Your Language—Don’t Despise What God Esteems

Watch Your Language—Don’t Despise What God Esteems

Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body. Proverbs 16:24

I love words. I take joy in reading a book where the author transports me to another place. I love movies and plays where the dialogue pierces my heart with healing truth. Most of all, I love it when my words bring comfort and joy to someone else.

But one thing I discovered.

I’m not as careful when I choose the words I say to myself. I’m guilty of saying things to me that I wouldn’t allow someone to say to the worst person on earth. Because all that negative self-talk can have a huge negative affect. With those cutting words comes a willingness to believe what’s being said. Believing the lies I spoke to myself was destroying me.

Maybe you do the same thing.

  • “I’m so stupid.”
  • “I should just quit, I’ll never amount to anything.”
  • “I’m ugly.”
  • “I don’t know why anyone would want to hang out with me.”
  • “I can’t do anything right.”

Statistics tell us that when we speak negative things to someone close to us, it takes anywhere from eight to sixteen positive things to outweigh one negative remark. We apply that statistic to our kids, our husbands, even our friends—but we ignore the fact that it also holds true when we’re speaking to ourselves.

The truth is, each of us is unique and precious to God.

He paid the ultimate price to bring us back to Him. How can we despise what God esteems? Think about how different your outlook might be if you spoke respectfully to yourself?

Edie Melson About Edie Melson

Edie Melson—author, blogger, speaker— is the author of numerous books. She’s encouraged and challenged audiences across the country and around the world in person and on the web. Connect with her on and on Twitter.


  1. I never thought about treating myself as I desire to treat others. Thank you.

  2. This is so true, and definitely speaks to me. I struggled with low self esteem for years and when I get into that really negative self talk, I think about Jesus and how he values us and how he sacrificed so much just to give me eternal life. This is a message we just can’t hear enough. Thank you, Edie.

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