Letting Go Requires Trust

Letting Go Requires Trust

It isn’t easy to let go of our children at any age. And yet, that’s exactly what we parents are supposed to do. Our goal, since the day our babies are born, is to raise them in such a way that they will grow up to be independent, capable adults.

We know this, but it doesn’t seem to help a whole lot when we face those letting-go moments. The first day of kindergarten. Going off to camp. Going off to college. Moving out of the house. Getting married.

My youngest just moved into an apartment and started work in the city. I am proud of all he has accomplished. I am proud of the very sensible way he has gone about this transition.

But I still worry. I am still tempted to call or text and make sure he is doing OK. Part of me wants to go buy him the décor and furniture his apartment needs to be complete.

I do my best to resist these temptations. Instead, I remind myself to trust.

  • To trust that my husband and I have been sufficient to the task. We are far from perfect, but we have done the best we could to prepare our boys for life. By God’s grace, it has been enough.
  • To trust that my son will continue to make wise choices and act responsibly. And also, to trust that he will be able to deal with his mistakes and overcome the challenges that will surely come his way.
  • To trust that God will watch over him, guide him, and provide for him. I know in my head that God is faithful, his promises are true, and his plans are better than mine. But sometimes my heart needs to be reminded to believe it.

I am doing my best to adapt to this new phase in my parenthood journey. I will need to learn a new set of expectations and boundaries.

But I know God has seen me through all the previous stages of letting go, and he will continue to direct me through this one.

If I let him.

How about you? Are you trusting God enough to let go?

But I am like an olive tree flourishing in the house of God; I trust in God’s unfailing love for ever and ever. For what you have done I will always praise you in the presence of your faithful people. And I will hope in your name, for your name is good. Ps 52:8,9


About Lisa Betz

Lisa Betz writes from an empty nest perched on a wooded Pennsylvania hillside. When not volunteering at the school, church or library, she writes about life, both now and two-thousand years ago.


  1. I know what you mean, Lisa! My kids are in their thirties, but I still get those moments when I worry. I think I need to rely on God even more now, though, as my only grandchild ( a granddaughter) has entered high school this year. She is bright and level-headed, but, oh, the temptations that confront our young people today are staggering!

    I enjoyed your post. It reminds me to ever rely on God for the well-being of all of our loved ones.

  2. How much more difficult it must be to let go of our loved ones when we don’t know God and his protection. I am thankful I know I can trust him.

  3. Janet K Brown says:

    Trust isn’t easy, but it’s worth it all. I love the post.

  4. I agree, Janet. Trust is worth it! The more we trust, the more we can see God’s faithfulness at work in our lives. But oh, how hard it can be some days.

  5. Every once in a while, I do text my thirty-something sons to check in with them, especially if a spirit of fear attacks. A quick, “what’s new” question, and they usually respond with a highlight of their week. This chases away any darkness, and the boys don’t seem to mind — like I said — every once in a while!

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