Seasoned Conversation

Seasoned Conversation

 “Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one” (Colossians 4:6 NKJV).

Words are a natural part of our lives. It’s hard to imagine going through even one day without saying a single thing. That’s why it is so important to have good communication coming out of our mouths.

Sticks and stones

Most of us grew up hearing taunts spit at us by other children on the playground. The usual response would be “sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” While that sounds like a clever retort, nothing could be further from the truth. A wound made by a stick or stone can heal and later is forgotten, but words can stab at our hearts leaving a painful opening in our soul.

Wounded people wound others and this can cause us to form barriers against relationships and can cause violent responses when we hear words against us. We can apologize for thoughtless comments, but the hurtful words remain behind and can’t be taken back.

Negative words bring negative circumstances. Jesus said in Mark 11:23 that we can have what we say. If we are constantly criticizing, complaining, and condemning we will get the fruit of those things in return. But if we will believe what the Bible says and use God’s words even in the face of storms and trials, we will reap a godly harvest.

My thoughtless comments

I have more instances than I care to remember where I have used words in the wrong way. A cynical comment in reply to my husband, impatient outbursts toward the children, or sassy retorts targeted at drivers or sales people all add up to deposits in the negative bank.

A couple of years ago my husband and I were on a trip with a church group. After our scenic tour of the mountains we stopped to eat at a local restaurant. At the end of our meal I chose a dessert, but when it was served it wasn’t what I had ordered. I let the waitress know in my “how dare you bring this to me” voice that it was wrong. It was such an unimportant thing that I let become something that hurt someone and especially hurt the image of the Christ who died for me. I know God forgave me, but I left behind some words I couldn’t take back.


To curtail my tongue and learn to have seasoned conversation, I am learning to speak positively to myself.  Recording verses which use the phrase “in him” or “through Him” and meditating on these promises helps me have the image God has about me. Getting the promises ingrained into my soul will reflect my beliefs and will spill over into relationships. When this is true, I am less likely to have thoughtless outbursts about others, situations, or myself.

Jesus said, “Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks” (Luke 6:45). That’s why I want my heart to be right.



Barbara Latta About Barbara Latta

Barbara Latta’s desire is to help others find intimacy with God through a deeper understanding of the power of the Word. She writes a monthly column in her local newspaper and contributes to devotional websites and several anthologies. She is a board member of the East Metro Atlanta Christian Writers. Barbara posts on her blog.


  1. Barb, i liked your post probably because it resonates with me. As with you, the wrong words sometimes sneak out of my mouth also. I think though always speaking in a positive tone is the best and more like Jesus. It’s a habit to hone!

  2. Thanks, Jude. This lesson is one I need rehearsing daily as sometimes our moods and situations can try to control our tongue. The best way is keeping the Word in our hearts so His Word is what comes out. It is a habit to hone, like you said.

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