When Things Change…

When Things Change…

One moment you’re a beloved wife or husband and then things change…

One moment you’re a loving parent and then things change…

One moment you’re a valuable employee and then things change…


Things change. There’s an old saying that says only two things are guaranteed in life…death and taxes. I’ll add a third to that list…change. Change is inevitable. Sometimes the changes are good, sometimes not so good, and sometimes tragic.

Life can be difficult. In fact, it can be heart-breaking. Sometimes the unthinkable happens.

When things change… we have a choice.

To let the change defeat us…to become bitter…angry…the list could go on and on. Or we can choose to trust God.


I heard a song this week for the first time. One line in the song says God is a good, good father. We either believe this or we don’t! If we don’t believe it, that’s when we let our circumstances overcome us. If we do believe it, we overcome our circumstances.

When things change…we have a choice.

I’m not saying it’s easy, because it’s not! I know this because life changed for me in 2012 when I was diagnosed with bilateral brain tumors. It’s not been an easy journey, and, in fact, I struggle on a daily basis with their aftereffects.

But still I can sing God is a good, good father…and mean it!

When things change…we have a choice.

Right now, one of my favorite country music acts is facing their own changes. Joey + Rory is a country music duo that has made God a part of their music and their daily life. Joey was diagnosed with cancer for the second time last year. They’ve chosen to share their journey in a very public way with their fans through Rory’s blog, This Life I Live at http://thislifeilive.com/

He’s done it with honesty, sharing their pain as well as their triumphs. But through it all, they’ve made the choice to honor God, no matter what the outcome. By doing this, they’ve been an amazing example of trusting God—in the good times and the bad. I believe their choice to share their journey is making a positive impact on many other people’s spiritual journeys.

My point in tell you a bit about Joey + Rory’s story is that even in difficult circumstances, they are making a choice to glorify God. And isn’t that what life is really all about?

When things change…we have a choice.




Lillian Duncan About Lillian Duncan

Lillian Duncan writes stories of faith mingled with murder & mayhem. She writes the type of books she loves to read—action-filled suspense with a touch of romance that demonstrates God’s love for all of us. Visit her website for more info.


  1. Thanks for this article today, Lil. Change IS an everyday part of life. Large or small, happy or devastating…how we choose to cope with it is how it will affect the outcome.

    I, too, have been following Rory Feek’s blog and the heart-breaking journey through Joey’s illness. I weep for the tragedy of it all, yet can’t help but smile and rejoice at the small things he shares, that no matter the ultimate outcome, God is in control, and both Joey and Rory know and accept that.

  2. Janet K Brown (@janetkbrowntx) says:

    Thanks so much for your post, Lillian. I know you’ve faced difficult circumstances these last few years. I hate change. That’s 1 of the reasons I struggle with this online stuff. About the time I learn it, I need to learn something else because it changes. Praise God, He never changes.

  3. I agree with you. They’ve been an inspiration to me.

  4. I’m with you, Janet. Even small changes in my plans use to irritate me, but I’ve gotten better with that.

  5. We never know what’s in store for us, but the Lord is with us through it all. Thanks for sharing your story, Lillian. God bless!

  6. Tina Dorward says:

    Change…ah the most often dreaded word! I liked the way you framed it Lillian and it is always a great reminder in trust. Glad to see you’re able to do what you are and letting go of focusing on those things you can’t. I’m sure some days you’re better at that than others. Thanks for your post.

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