Focus On Today and Yet Tomorrow

Focus On Today and Yet Tomorrow

We’ve officially entered that time in parenting when your present focus is mostly on the future…college. It’s a weird place to be because you want to be in the present, to enjoy these days all together because you know they are starting to dwindle away, and yet there are so many “to-dos” to plan for what lies ahead. This feeling of being stuck between two realities isn’t always fun and yet there is also an excitement and anticipation to what lies ahead.

For I know the thoughts that I think

With two sons one after another, we have a lot of planning happening. Granted, our oldest has decided to go into the ministry, is planning on going to school at our church’s extension campus nearby, and will stay living at home but he’s still going to be in school with new freedoms and new responsibilities that will often keep him away from home. Our other son is currently a junior and we are in the process of researching and visiting schools. We actually seemed to get off easy with Jack because he knew pretty quickly what he wanted to do and where he wanted to do it. Peter has high hopes to go to an elite school and he has the grades and fortitude to do everything he can to make that a reality.

But with all this focus on school and the future, I think it can easily become a trap. Parents are all asking each other, “where’s your son/daughter looking at going to school? What do they want to study? Are they going to play a sport? The questions go on and on. And it’s easy to understand why; it’s the stage that all of us families are in so of course you ask because it’s the polite thing to do and you know that’s what they’re dealing with just as you are.

But what about those parents where the motive isn’t necessarily well intentioned? What about the “one-upping” that creeps in, the competition to have your kid getting into the “best” school or receiving the D1 scholarship? Our children watch us and what are we modeling for them? Are they feeling the pressure that seems to underly these seemingly innocent questions? More importantly, are we modeling that they need to be including God in the process?

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans for good and not for disaster, plans to give you a future and a hope.'” Jeremiah 29:11 (NLT)

It might seem silly to think God cares where one goes to school but why wouldn’t He? He created each of us with a unique purpose and that purpose can best be fulfilled if we are open to first seeking and then waiting to hear for His direction in our life. Maybe it truly is as simple as asking and praying about it and reading God’s Word and the path will be made clear. “Your Word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” Psalms 119:105

We should all be seeking to fulfill God’s purpose for our lives each day and beginning that process early on can only help our lives and our futures to be God-driven.

Tina Dorward About Tina Dorward

Tina Dorward is a fully-devoted follower of Christ who loves spending time with her husband and two sons and volunteering at her local church. In her free time she reads, writes, paints and cooks.


  1. Love this post! My daughter was accepted early to a nearby college, then at the last minute decided not to go. My son had gone one semester to college before that, then decided not to go back. They grew up watching me struggle with classes and working full time trying to finish my bachelor’s degree. I didn’t want them to do the same thing. I wanted them to go to college now before life’s responsibilities made it harder. But you know what? I finally had to realize going to college was a decision they had to make. They had to do if for them. I can’t make them. Turning it over to God was the best thing I could do. It made me able to support them any way I can without regrets that they didn’t do what I wanted them to do. Now my son plays the drums with an awesome Christian band at youth services, works full time, and is waiting for the girl God wants him to marry, rather impatiently I might add lol. And my daughter is still trying to figure out what God wants to do with her life. She works full time as well, but is struggling with what God wants her to do. Pray with me over both of them? With God directing your steps you’ll do what He wants when He wants in the time He has set for it. Then you don’t have to worry about the details.

  2. Tina Dorward says:

    Thanks Sally! I appreciate you taking the time to respond and share your experiences. I guess I’ll just have to wait and see how things play out. I will definitely join you in praying for your daughter and the direction she is seeking that God would make a clear path.

  3. Thank you so much, Tina!! I appreciate it! I will be praying for you and your family as well!

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