When Resolutions Go Awry

When Resolutions Go Awry

Words flew out of my mouth like sparks from a wood burning stove. Not pretty words. They carried the heat of my anger from the deepest root of my hair down to the tip of my longest toenail. Good thing I uttered the broken phrases under my breath so my husband would not waken to my venomous mood.

God heard. He heard me utter His name. He did not hear me speak it in prayer. I mumbled it in vain, in frustration, in self-recrimination for my bad choice. My foolish oath to an inanimate object left me feeling ridiculous, embarrassed, defeated.

We’re barely a week into the New Year, and my resolution to keep my temper in check is as tainted as new fallen snow dirtied by muddy tire tracks.

What happened?

Life happened.

My sinful nature took control.

I let my eyes and my heart wander from Jesus.

Good thing God understands our trials, our shortcomings, our faults, and our frustration.

Of course, moments after uttering those venomous words, I spoke God’s name in reverence, praying for His forgiveness, asking for help to meet the next situation with calm and common sense. I didn’t promise I’d never do it again. I know I will and He knows I will, so why lie to Him?

I did praise Him and shout in thanksgiving that He is a loving, forgiving God who showers His grace on me in unrestrained abundance.

Life isn’t a baseball game where you get three strikes and you’re out.

You don’t lose your “rights” as a member of the body of Christ like you lose your driver’s license if you mess up too many times.

God doesn’t expect us to make a 100% turnaround because we hung a new calendar on the wall.

He does expect us to…

seek knowledge of Him

draw closer to Him

strive to be more like Him.

He longs for us to…

return His love

embrace His forgiveness

accept the gift of  His grace.

Perhaps if I put the resolutions aside and pursue these goals, everything else will fall into place.

Patti Shene About Patti Shene

Patti Shene has enjoyed writing since childhood. Patti hosts Step Into the Light, an interview format Blog Talk Radio show. Since the show launched in September, she has hosted a variety of guests who share the ways they reach out to help others overcome the dark times in their lives. Visit her website for more.


  1. Tina Dorward says:

    Thanks for sharing your vulnerability Patti. Isn’t it grand how life gets in the way of our best intentions? The reminder that God is there with forgiveness if we seek it is a good one especially if He knows our heart is to try to do better next time. God bless you

  2. I so appreciate your transparency, Pat. I’m not so sure I’d have openly confessed something like that, even though I’m guilty of the same thing…numerous times. And I’m not proud of it. Just the opposite, and it shames me. But, as you said, God’s never-ending forgiveness is always there, but we must ask for it.
    Thanks for sharing. Hugs!

  3. Patti Shene Patti Shene says:

    Thanks, Peg. Now that you say that, I hope readers were not offended.. Yikes! Now I’m concerned.

    I still don’t understand how to put that “feature picture” on the post. I tried and tried. It shows up on the preview, but when I publish the post, it is not there. This technology so baffles me sometimes!

    • Naw, we deal with all kinds of “real-ness” here at POTN, Patti, so I’m sure they weren’t offended. I think many (like me!) can relate to this so much.

      On a side note, you’re doing really well with the new technology here! I know it doesn’t feel like it but eventually it will. 🙂

  4. Patti Shene Patti Shene says:

    Thanks, Tina. My bad temper is something I’m not proud of, especially next to my even-tempered husband who stays so calm! Every day I pray that I’ll do better.

  5. Thanks for sharing! I needed this reminder. Thanking Him for His grace.

  6. What a wonderful post, Patti. Praise God, He’s merciful. Since I’m a big baseball fan, I love that analogy. No 3 strikes, you’re out for Christians. Thanks for the encouraging words.

  7. Thank you, Cherie, for your comment and the encouragement. I’ve learned a lot about technology on many fronts this past year, but, oh, there is so much more to be conquered!

    Sorry for the delay in answering. I haven’t had the chance to check email for a couple of days!

  8. Yes, yes, Cherie! A friend and I were talking about this the other day, how she and I have that explosive temperament at times and our husbands are so mellow. I guess if it wasn’t that way. look out – EXPLOSION! God is so wise!

  9. We all need to be thankful for His grace, Toni. We’d be in a terrible mess without it! Thank you for your comment.

    Sorry it took me some time to answer!

  10. Thank you for your comment, Janet.

    I know everyone (around here, anyway) is all hyped up about the football playoffs and the upcoming Super Bowl. My thought is this: Let’s get this out of the way so we can get back to the REAL game! Baseball! HA! That’s what made me think of the analogy as I was writing the post.

    Sorry for the delay in answering.

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