The Three F’s

The Three F’s

The Three F’s

Any success I might feel completing this first year of grieving after the loss of my husband, goes to what I call the three F’s: Faith, Family and Friends. Without any one of these, I would not be here with you putting on my new life. This trio of F’s continues to sustain me day by day, but this morning, as I pondered the wonder of Advent, I thought of the Virgin Mary. I thought how the three F’s must have sustained her even more.

Mary’s faith is one of the reasons she was chosen as the Mother of Jesus in the first place. God saw her committed and open heart. In spite of knowing the consequences, she responded, “I am the Lord’s servant. May it be to me as you have said.” (Luke 1:38 NIV) Astounding! My humble faith enables me to know that I do not grieve as one without hope and this gives me peace as does knowing I am the Lord’s servant too.

Family member Cousin Elizabeth, filled with the Spirit, prophesied Mary was blessed among women and the child she would bear was also blessed. (Luke 1:42) I love to think of the joy these two ladies shared as they reveled over each other’s pregnancy, in spite of the seemingly impossible circumstances for both. My blended, nuclear family and my original family of birth are both very large and I can’t say enough positives about their support. I like to think of how Mary and Joseph’s families must have supported them. A family is a circle of love.

We know friends were there for Mary. Surely, Mary and friends prepared the Last Supper, friends stood with her at the cross, and friends went to the tomb. Old and new friends (like you here) have loved on me dearly this past year. I am very grateful.

Faith, family and friends. Our most essential needs. Celebrate the joy of it all!

But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

Philipians 4:19

Jude Urbanski About Jude Urbanski

Jude Urbanski’s passions are ‘people and places.’ She writes women's fiction featuring strong inspirational romance elements. Her stories invite you to heroes and heroines who spin tragedy into triumph with help from God. First published in nonfiction, Jude continues to write in this field also. Editing services complete Jude’s repertoire.


  1. Yes, yes, yes! I kept saying this to myself as I read your post, Jude. The three “F”s are so important, especially at this time of year.

  2. And even at any time of the year, Cherie. Any one of us is called to participate as family, friend or with faith in most of life’s events. God knew His business is all I can say.

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