Tea Anyone?

Tea Anyone?

A few weeks ago I had the pleasure of attending a ladies tea honoring victims, or should I say survivors of domestic violence. I initially thought that this would simply be a foofoo dainty event where a bunch of women would be all gussied up eating tea sandwiches and sipping tea. I was in for a pleasant surprise.

LadiesTea_programAs the program progressed, several women shared their stories of abuse, addiction and survival. One-by-one they each shared the devastating effects that physical, mental, and often sexual abuse has had on their lives; stories of homelessness, drug abuse, depression, incarceration, hospitalization and then redemption. I was surprised to learn that most, if not all, of the women who shared their experience of domestic violence was also either raped and/or molested as a child. This I found to be a disturbing trend that most victims of domestic violence had some sort of sexual trauma in their childhood or adolescence. Each story and testimony softly pierced my heart and inspired me to step out of my comfort zone and start focusing energy on formally establishing the non-profit women’s ministry that God had put on my heart years earlier.

LadiesTea_displayI firmly believe that nothing happens by chance that our steps in the Lord are ordered. I was not at that tea simply to donate to a cause, I was there on assignment. The Lord had given me a vision several years ago that I would start a women’s ministry. At that time, I knew it was not the season, I simply wrote down what the Lord revealed to me at that time. Over the years, I have prayed for clarity concerning this vision for I knew that once I received clarity, I was released to fully do what God has called me to do in the area of women’s ministry. With each testimony, the vision and mission of what God has called me to do became clear and coherent. Most recently, I had been praying that God would give me direction and clarity in terms of exactly what is it that you want me to do in the area of women and girls? After hearing one of the ladies lay-out the daunting and shocking statistics of child sex trafficking, the scripture, “…the harvest is plentiful but the workers are few” came to mind. (Matthew 9:37) I started thinking, “okay, Lord is that you?!” After her presentation, I was eager to learn more about child sex trafficking. LadiesTea_book2

At the conclusion of the tea, I shared with the Organizer that I had been so moved and blessed by what I had seen and heard that I was inspired to write my next blog post about the tea sharing my experience. Another lady near-by overhead me and started asking questions about my blog. I began to share with her and she responded, “…pray about it”. But little did she know, I had already prayed, I had received my confirmation.

LadiesTea_terry-sunni2“If you can use anything, Lord you can use me!”

Terry Cato About Terry Cato

Terry Cato is a Talk Show Host, Author and relationship blogger. She is the Founder of Relationships 411, a blog community dedicated to healthy relationships and marriages. She is the Host of Real Talk w/Terry a Bay Area talk show focusing on relationship and lifestyle topics. Her memoir, “No Longer a Bridesmaid!” chronicles the 7 years she was single, celibate and believing God for a husband. Feel Free to Follow Terry on Twitter and visit her website for more information about the Author.


  1. Loved the post, Terry. Yes, He can use us all. Sometimes, we can’t imagine how He chooses to use us. I will join you in prayer for direction.

  2. Sunni K. Harley says:
  3. It was such a pleasant surprise to meet you. The Lord is so amazing and yes everything happens for a reason. Thank you for inspiring me and your kind words. I’m so excited about what God has called you to do that I know our destination is bigger than we can ever dream of. God bless you and may His light continue to shine upon you.

  4. Bless you, Terry! What a great cause and to get an answer to your prayers this way is wonderful. I think you will do great things for this group.

  5. Barbara Carter says:

    I will keep you in my prayers, Terry. You are so right, that there is a season for everything and if we move too fast (or to slow), we will be out of position. I worked in substance abuse for many years and has heard many of the same type of stories. There is a traffiking conference on Sat 9/19/15 at New Testament Church that may be an opportunity for you to meet more women in the area God is leading you.

  6. Terry Cato says:

    Thanks Cherie, God bless!

  7. Terry Cato says:

    Thanks Barbara, I will look into this conference.

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