As a woman who maintained a love/hate relationship with perfectionism, I often rose to the heights of success one moment, then plunged to self-condemnation the next. Over the course of my life, this got pretty exhausting. “Never enough,” I used to think. “I’ll never be enough.” I took stock of my attributes (the good, the bad, and the ugly), my time, and my abilities and then pronounced myself “not enough” for the demands of this life.

You know what? I was right. But I was right in the wrongest of ways. My mindset was that I had to be enough for the demands of life because I was looking to myself to be my own hero. Yeah. That doesn’t work. Did you catch all those “I’s” and “my’s?” Self-centered living will bring that.

About 11 years ago, after a particularly devastating event in my life, I wrote a poem about never being enough. The poem was raw, bitter, and on the borderline of despair. Then my computer crashed and I lost that piece of writing forever. I know that was no coincidence! God did not want me brooding over that poem or even exalting in the moody self-centeredness of it. No, He wanted me to turn away from looking to myself to fix the things in my life that were out of line and look to Him. That was truly a turning point for me. I remember at that time really beginning to open up to others about some of the deepest, darkest places in my soul. Not a myriad of people, of course. Just one or two kindred souls I knew I could trust and lean on from time to time. “Confess your sins, one to another, that you may be healed” God instructs us in James 5:16. For me, this was hard, but so worth it.

Let me encourage you today, whether you battle perfectionism like me or whether you just like to appear like you have it all together…STOP. Let a close friend or two in on your struggle of trying to be “enough” in this life and ask them to pray for you. Humbly ask God to transform your desire to look to Christ instead to be your “enough.” He will.

The freedom that comes from giving up the struggle to appear perfect and capable all the time will lead to a greater depth of love and intimacy with Christ. It will also make you the kind of woman others will want to be around, a woman of grace. “Christ in me, the hope of glory” (Col. 1:27) should be the vibe we are sending out, not “Look at me, I am so capable in myself!” In ourselves, friends, we will never be enough. But Christ is. His life in us is more than enough for all of life’s demands, but most importantly, He makes our standing before God “ENOUGH.” Let that bring a smile to your lips today.

Kristin Bunting About Kristin Bunting

Kristin wishes you could pull up a chair, enjoy a cup of coffee, and talk with her about how amazing Jesus is. For 33 years she has walked with her Savior, and each year is a new adventure in learning how He is always "Enough" for her, no matter what the circumstance. Kristin is wife to one loving small-church pastor, and never ceases to be amazed at the 3 daughters God has given them to raise. Her one-day dream is to write a book for women, chronicling her walk with Jesus and encouraging them to never quit pursuing the God who loves them.

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