Love Is In the Air

Love Is In the Air

1st Corinthians 13: 4-6

 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 


Hearts. Chocolate. Roses. Gooshy—mooshy cards. February is all about love, but what if your relationship isn’t sweet and tender or even safe? Then February only accentuates the hurt just a bit more.

I know all about this kind of a relationship—the hurting kind.

The above verses are often used at weddings and rightfully so. They map out a way for you to treat your loved one, but let’s reverse it to test your relationships, whether romantic, friendship, or a marriage. Be honest with yourself as you answer these questions.

Love is patient: Are you worried all the time about being yelled at for one reason or another?

Love is kind:  Do you get called names, told you’re stupid, shoved, hit, or any sort of physical violence?

Love does not envy:  Does your significant other undermine everything you try to do, including your confidence?

Love does not boast:  Is the relationship all about the other person as if you aren’t really all that important?

Love is not proud:  Can your significant other admit and apologize when they’re in the wrong or do you have to be the one who apologizes every time even when you know you’re not in the wrong?

Love is not self-seeking:  Is it all about them or does the person make an effort to make you happy?

Love is not easily angered: Are you always walking on egg shells, just waiting for the explosion to happen—again?

Love keeps no record of wrongsIs forgiveness a part of your relationship or does the anger and bitterness from the last fight just keep going and going?

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth:  Are you able to be honest with other people about your relationship or do you keep the secret of how you’re being treated from them because it’s just easier that way?

I recently saw an episode of Dr. Phil Show where some young woman posted things saying that if a guy hits you, then he must really love you because he’s willing to go to jail for you. WHAT? Love is supposed to feel good. You’re supposed to feel safe and loved. Your home is where you should flourish not cringe.

Still not sure if your relationship is healthy or not, then ask yourself one more question. If I had a daughter or a son, would I want them to be in this relationship? I think you’ll find your answer.

I already told you I had way too much experience with the hurting kind of a relationship, but God is good. I’m now in a sweet, loving, and healthy relationship, but the one thing I’ve learned is it’s better to be in no relationship then one that hurts.

Know that you are loved by your Heavenly Father on this day and every day.

Happy Valentine’s Day!




Lillian Duncan About Lillian Duncan

Lillian Duncan writes stories of faith mingled with murder & mayhem. She writes the type of books she loves to read—action-filled suspense with a touch of romance that demonstrates God’s love for all of us. Visit her website for more info.

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